Monday, November 24, 2008

Together at last...

Daddy with his girls...
Lia looks just like her Daddy...so awesome!
Aren't they cute sisters?
Lia kept opening her eyes really big with the flash, but they sure are cute together! Hannah really seems to love Lia and wants to help with everything. She such a great big sister!

Saturday, November 22, 2008

The Adoption Journey...

So, for many of you, you already know that we have adopted a beautiful, healthy little baby girl who we named Lia (Brazilian spelling of Leah).    We also kept the name her birth mother gave her as a middle name: Krystyna.  She was born at 9 lbs 8 oz, which fits right into our family as Hannah was 9 lbs exactly.  Lia is very aware and alert.  She likes to see as much as she can and she is only 3 weeks old.  As much as we have come to love her, the adoption is not final until another 2 to 3 weeks.  This will take place in court where the birth mother will be able to relinquish all of her rights and then we will start our probationary stage, proving that we are taking care of and meeting Lia's needs. 

Many of you have asked me to write about our journey here, so I will do just that.


So, the adoption journey does not start when you get your baby, ours' started a few months after we were married.  I have always wanted to be a mother. Flavio and I started trying right after we were married, but month after month, nothing.  This became very difficult for me and I knew I needed to talk with a doctor.  Luckily for us, our doctor was very understanding and instead of making us wait a full year of trying, he allowed us to get tested right away.  These tests proved that both Flavio and myself had infertility problems and the doctors said that we had less than a 1% chance of getting pregnant on our own.  This was devastating, I felt as if I had been punched in the stomach.  My dream of becoming a mother seemed shattered.  However, we had some money saved up and we decided through prayer to try in-vitro.  For any of you who have gone through this, or know someone who has, you will know how hard this process really is.  With the shots and the hormones changes, the different tests and then the final procedure.  It is all very stressful and emotional.  Flavio and I both knew that this is what we were supposed to do, and so with the first round of in-vitro we thought for sure it would work, how could it not?  But, to our horror, it didn't and then it didn't the second time either. I went through what seemed like a period of grief, like you do when you lose someone early to death.  This whole time I was looking into adoption, wondering if that was what we needed to do.  But once again, we felt we needed to try the in-vitro again and after 6 months of trying in-vitro we were pregnant.  Hannah was born and, well, she is one of the most wonderful people I have ever had in my whole life.

So this adoption journey did not begin last week or even the day we found out about Lia.  This has been something we have thought about almost our entire marriage.  The actual journey to get Lia has been a life changing experience.  So many family members, friends and total strangers have come together in our behalf.  Lia has been surrounded with people who don't even know us, but have taken us in regardless.  So many people have loved Lia in her short little life, including her birth mother.  To give such a precious gift is beyond anything I could ever do.  Her birth mother will always be an angel to us.  There is still so much to write about, but this journey is not over.  We just hope and pray that this little gift will be ours forever and ask that you will keep us in your prayers for this purpose.  Thank you all for all you have done to help and support us during this miracle.  I will share our full journey once everything goes through.  We love you and can't wait to introduce you to Lia Krystyna Martins.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

MIA....Detroit, Michigan


Well, we'll be in Detroit again this upcoming week. The adoption papers haven't processed as quickly as we had hoped so Niki is still in Detroit. I'll be heading back out with Hannah this weekend so that we at least get to spend the waiting time together as a family.

Lia is great, getting a bit more adjusted to our family and Niki is a fabulous mom. She is SO loving and caring. The White family with whom she has been staying are great people, like old friends you haven't seen in a long time but when you get together you just pick up where you left off.

Now, normally we shouldn't publish too much personal information about yourself online, like when you'll be out of your house but in this case, I'll just say that Jeff is looking out for our home base, and if you know Jeff that's enough to keep you away. If you don't...well, let's just say that it's good to have him on our side.

Anyway, we're hoping that the interstate adoption paperwork goes through early next week and that we'll be home soon!

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

What I do for a living...


For those of you who don't know Jeff Snider (http://www.snider-family.com/) and I work for DigiCert, one of the fastest growing Certificate Authorities. Our company creates SSL Certificates that secure Web sites. In other words, when you enter your password on a Web site or your credit card number when buying something online you get that page with the padlock which shows that the site is secured.

What it really means is that the contents that you entering are encrypted so that other people can't snoop on what you are entering and steal your information. We secure servers, Web sites, and networks from Fortune 500 companies, large nations, State, and local government agencies, major universities, local colleges, school districts, mom-and-pop Web stores online, you name it, we secure it. You may not have heard of our company but we're around.

To help you see what we do, I've included a picture of one of our recent clients, you may know them already....FACEBOOK.

If you want to learn some more about SSL Certificates, Internet Security, or just want to check our an amazing looking Web site, head on over to https://www.DigiCert.com

Friday, November 14, 2008

More precious moments...

How can I note love that cute face? It has been such an amazing experience to have little Lia join our family.












If you're thinking that she looks like me (Flavio) you're not alone. I totally think that she has a lot of my traits. Everyone here in Detroit agrees that she looks just like me YAY!!!

We stand on the shoulders of giants, we must live up to the legacy they have established.

While spending time here in Detroit we decided to visit the Ford Museum in Dearborn. If you ever find yourself in the area, get to the museum, it's money well spent. You don't need to spend the entire day there, you can get through everything in a couple of hours.

One of the exhibits at the Ford Museum is the Liberty and Justice for All exhibit that takes you through the social justice history of the United States. You see historical artifacts and displays from the Revolutionary War to the Suffrage Movement to the Civil Rights era.

One of the items in the exhibit is the Montgomery Alabama bus where Rosa Parks sat and made history when she challenged the Jim Crow laws that were the norm in the country at that time. On that day a pivotal moment in history took place and today I was taken back to that moment in time. I took a deep breath as I rounded the corner to where the actual bus was located. After another deep breath, I stepped to inside the front of the bus. Tears began to develop in my eyes and I proceeded to walk down the aisle of the bus. The museum worker outside of the bus points to the actual seat where Rosa Parks sat. I walked towards it and debated whether I could also sit in that same seat. I began to wonder if I had really lived my life in appreciation of the great labor and sacrifice undertaken by others so that I could enjoy the freedoms I have in my life now. I sat on that same seat and had Niki take a picture of that moment. She took the picture and then I bowed my head and began to sob. I didn't try to hide it, it was all I could do to show my respect for the dedication those great men and women had.

I hope that we can all look at our lives and have an appreciation for all that we have and especially have reverence for those who have sacrificed for us to have a better life. Whatever it may be in our lives, whether an individual involved in the civil rights movement, or a relative who left an oppressive country to live a better life, we need to understand more about those who came before us and the responsibility we each have to ensure that those who come after us will continue to be greatful for the rich, full lives they live. What we need now a days is a little less self-entitlement and a little more respect for where we have come from and the potential we have to make a difference in the lives of those to come.

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Lia


So, some of you already know...but we have adopted a beautiful baby girl! We are in Michigan picking her up. I will not be home for a few days, but Flavio will be home on Sat. We can't even explain how amazing this whole process has been. We have been blessed beyond belief. We can't wait for you to meet her! LOL

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Tagged...

Okay, here it goes...lots and lots of info about me you may or may not want to know...it is up to you to keep reading.

Favorite TV shows:
1. Seinfeld
2. The Office...although I have missed the past couple of weeks
3. Hopefully Lost...but I am getting annoyed with not knowing enough yet

Least Favorite TV shows:
1. Family Guy
2. Desperate Housewives
3. Any Soap Opera

Favorite Restaurants:
1. The Mandrin
2. Pizza Factory
3. Braza Grill

Least Favorite Restaurants:
1. Most food places

Things that happened yesterday:
1. I will get back to you on that one...

Things that I am looking forward to:
1. I'll get back to you on that one as well
2. Thanksgiving
3. Christmas

Things I am not looking forward to:
1. A long plane ride
2. A long plane ride
3. A long plane ride

Things I love about Fall:
1. Colors
2. Temperature
3. Halloween

Things on my wish list:
1. I'll get back to you on that one...
2. Healthy children.
3. Improve on my art skills

Things I do not wish for:
1. Isn't that a given?

Everyone is tagged...sorry. :)

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Taking care of Isaac


So we have had cute little Isaac Crowther for that last few days. He is really cute and so much fun, I do have to admit though, that I forgot what is was like to have a baby in the house and it has been good for me to get back into the baby mode. Hannah is having so much fun with him and has decided all of her old baby toys are now are favorite toys...but at least she shares them with him. He is a little busy body of energy and is so smiley! He even likes Flavio, which isn't a normal thing, most kids run the other way. :) But Isaac just plays with him and smiles at him. We think he is so cute and it gets us excited for another baby of our own someday.

Sunday, November 2, 2008

Cornbelly Fun, fUn, fuN


Isn't she cute...even when she sits in a vat of corn...
Here is Flavio, not sure which way to go...wait isn't this the kiddie maze.

Levitation...
So, for those of you who went to Cornbelly's Maize, you know what I am saying when I say, "FUN!" If you were not able to go this year, I suggest you try to go next year. It was so much fun. Hannah just loved it. They had so many things for kids of all ages to do there. We were really surprised at how much fun it was. Halloween was really fun this year. I love having a child to share these experiences with, they really make life more fun! I love you Hannah! Did I mention the word fun enough?

Saturday, November 1, 2008

Cookie Monster Cute

So here is Hannah being cute again...my mom bought this Cookie Monster toy, Tickle Me Cookie Monster, and she has now made him her TV buddy. They hold hands and everything. I just love all the cute things she comes up with...what will she do next? Don't worry, I am sure I will post it. :)